January Recap & February Goals: Learning to Love Myself & Take the Leap

Whew, January flew by, didn’t it? But honestly, I’m feeling really good about how 2025 is starting. This past month was a wake-up call for me—I let go of something (or should I say someone?) that was no longer adding value to my life. And let me tell you, that decision came with a major realization: I need to reevaluate my boundaries and, more importantly, actually stand on them.

January also sparked something new in me—this deep craving to live more. I don’t just want to exist in my routine; I want to get out, make memories, explore new things, and finally push myself out of my comfort zone. But the biggest thing? I need to take better care of me—physically, mentally, emotionally. I’m so used to pouring my energy into other people that I’ve neglected myself for way too long.

That stops now.

This year is all about redirecting that love and effort back into myself. So for February, I’m setting some serious (but exciting) goals to keep this momentum going.

"Setting goals is like giving your dreams a deadline—stay focused, stay consistent, and watch yourself grow."

💕 Dating: Raising the Bar & Setting Standards

This one’s a biggie. I’ve spent too much time trying to "save" the first person who shows interest, and honestly? That’s not the energy I’m bringing into 2025. No more settling for people who don’t respect me, no more pouring love into people who only take.

This month, I’m sitting down and defining my standards, values, and boundaries before I even think about giving my energy to someone else. The love and affection I’ve always given so freely? I’m redirecting it back to me.

✨ Life: Learning to Love Myself & Take the Leap

Growing up, my safe space was always my room. If I stayed inside, nothing could hurt me, right? But now, at 30, I’m realizing...that’s boring. I spent my 20s chasing love and validation, and guess what? It got me nowhere.

So now? I’m reclaiming my life and learning to Love Myself & Take the Leap

February is all about experiences—traveling more (even if it’s just day trips), seeing a play or concert, getting into hobbies I used to love (karaoke night, anyone?), and just doing things that bring me joy. No more waiting around. It’s time to live.

💼 Career: Balancing Work & Passion Projects

Right now, I’m balancing a full-time job at a hotel while also trying to grow my blog—and if you know anything about ADHD, you know the struggle of juggling multiple things at once. But I’m getting the hang of it, and February is all about pushing myself a little more.

At my job, I’ve been put in charge of creating products to sell to guests, which is super exciting. I also want to come up with ways to show appreciation for our team members (because happy employees = a better workplace).

But my biggest career goal for February? Launching my podcast.

I want it to be a safe space where I share my journey of self-love and self-discovery, while also making it feel like a cozy chat with your best friend. But I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t terrified. What if no one listens? What if it flops? What if it doesn’t help anyone?

But then I hear Steve Harvey’s voice in my head saying: just jump.

So this month? I’m jumping.

"Your life is your story—pick up the pen, take control, and write a masterpiece."

🎯 February Goals

✔️ Define my dating standards, values, and boundaries

✔️ Pour all the love I give to others back into myself

✔️ Travel more, take day trips, go to plays or concerts

✔️ Reignite old passions—drawing, karaoke, crafting

✔️ Get products made for the hotel

✔️ Finally stop letting fear hold me back and launch my podcast

I’m excited (and nervous) to take these goals head-on, but it’s time to start living for me, not for anyone else.

Now, I want to hear from you! What are your goals for February? Drop them in the comments and let’s hold each other accountable. And if you want to follow my progress throughout the month, make sure to follow me on TikTok (#cheywithablog).

Oh, and keep an eye out for that podcast launch...it’s happening. 🎤✨

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